Same Sex Love

Points of View Ep.10: First of all, I am not here to promote anything nor convince people to change their beliefs and opinions. This topic might be sensitive for some, while there are others who are open minded regarding this topic… It is about loving someone with the same gender as yours.

When I was young, I already knew the terms “bakla (gay)” and “tomboy (boyish)”. You are different and an object of laughter when you are one of those two terms. It’s because of the actions of that person, and what they are physically.

When I was in elementary, I became aware that there are some girls who have “crush” on someone with their same gender. Then, I became aware also that some entertain a mutual relationship with someone with the same gender.

As I mature, I started to define “love” in my won ways. Actually for me, love is a feeling that you can’t force yourself to feel, but rather, it is a feeling that comes naturally. It’s really unexplainable. I also started to realize that this “same gender love” thing is not just for girls, but also for boys. I knew it because I see it in the real world, with a little help from the virtual world - the internet.

I know that some people would be against this but how can we say that it is wrong if someone feels love for someone of the same gender? Is it because loving someone with the same gender wrong or bad? We can compare this to someone who fell in love with someone who is married. How does this become wrong? Is it from the moment this person fell in love with the married person, or is it from the moment the person did something to break the relationship of this person?

Comparing it to this “same gender love”, where can it be wrong? Is it from the moment a person fell in love with someone of the same gender? Or is it when this person entered a relationship with someone of the same gender? How about a sexual relationship?

Oh well, it depends on us whether we can say that it is wrong or not. Definitely, there are some who will say that this is wrong, but there are also some who can defend that there is nothing wrong with this kind of feeling.

Let’s not neglect the fact that there are same sex relationships that lasts for a long time. Not all same sex relationships are just all about sex. Not all same sex relationships are not just because of material things. We’ll be surprised that some people who are open to these kind relationship is serious and loyal to their partners. These things are also applicable to a man and woman relationship.

This thing really happens around us. It is a fact. But I think we don’t need to fight or argue with people with different opinions with us. As I mentioned earlier, love is a feeling that we cannot force ourselves to feel, but rather, it comes naturally. Sometimes, we just can’t explain to ourselves why we fell in love with a person, even with someone with the same gender as ours.